Orgasm Inequality; or how can we fix the O-gap?

Is there an inequality gap when it comes to the big O? Who orgasms more - men or women? Why do we think that orgasm should be the outcome of the sexual act if our purpose is not to reproduce?

Many people view reaching orgasm as the last stop in the bedroom funfair they have just attended. And whether that may be pleasant and understandable, we can’t help but notice that this is not the case for a lot of women. Reaching orgasm is like the cherry on the top of the ice cream, or like the end destination after a month of travel. We all want it, and we all look for it while performing midnight acrobatics (lol). However, we find that heterosexual women are the demographic that orgasms the least during sex, and heterosexual men as the demographic that orgasms the most, or nearly every time, they have sex. (2020)


Some studies (Durex; 2017) show that 3 out of 4 women can’t orgasm at all, which makes up 20% of women. However, only 2% of men can’t orgasm, and that is quite a difference right there.


The society’s stigma is that once a man has reached ‘the end goal’ sex is finished and the act cannot continue longer. Understandably, if we trace this back in time, women’s pleasure wasn’t taken under consideration and the goal of the act was to procreate, therefore we would only need the man to finish. But nowadays, without sexual education and without adequate conversations on this topic, we continue to follow the same old ways, which clearly don’t work for us anymore.

Following the narrative that sex is for pleasure, we would pose the question - “Why is more men not interested in satisfying their partners fully?” or “Are men educated enough to know when a woman has reached climax?”. Communication is the main pillar when it comes to humans understanding one another and without adequate communication from both sides, an agreement cannot be reached.

Some believe that the orgasm gap is a cultural problem that can be fixed if enough attention was put upon it. Others blame men or women. While we look at how all but heterosexual women are almost fully satisfied, we also need to think of the fact that they may not know their bodies as well as thy should.

Masturbation or the usage of sex toys may be a step closer to knowing what you like. Play with yourselves, masturbate, treat yourself with sex toys and experiment.Until you know your body enough to be able to communicate that to a man.

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Be brave, be bold, be orgasmic.

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